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Mom: I begged her to leave him

Published: 
Saturday, March 10, 2018
Abused woman takes own life
Deomatie Madoo, mother of Rachel Madoo who committed suicide. PICTURE ABRAHAM DIAZ

Deomatie Madoo begged her daughter Rachel Madoo to leave an abusive relationship with a man she met when she was 16, but Rachel always lived in the hope that one day her life would get better.

On Monday, Rachel lost that hope. Desperate and depressed, Rachel drank poison to escape her abuser and she died on International Women’s Day (March 8). Before dying, Rachel left a note begging for help. The note went viral.

Grieving relatives said her 17-year relationship was a turbulent one and the simple note she left while she lay on her death bed had dug a hole in their hearts.

The note read, “I live in an abusive relationship with (name called) for 17 years. I have a 13-year-old daughter whom he abused as well. He would beat me and tell me I always have a man until on Monday he came home cursing and beating me until I got fed up and drank poison. I am presently in Mount Hope and I need help. (Name called) works in the army and I fear for my life. Please, help me please. R Madoo.”

In an interview yesterday, Deomatie said both her daughters were victims of physical abuse, as a male relative took out his frustration on them as children.

“When Rachel was 16 years old she met the man who made her life a living hell. He had two young children of his own but their mother was never in their lives, so my Rachel took care of his two children like her own,” Deomatie said.

She explained that it was sometime after the relationship got serious that she realised the man was beating her daughter.

Describing Rachel as a pretty girl, Deomatie said the man was very jealous.

“He would blame her with every man who spoke to her. She lived in fear. I told her this was not the kind of life I wanted her to live because I myself was abused. I wanted what was best for my daughter,” Deomatie said in an anguished tone.

She said Rachel summoned up the courage to leave the abusive relationship on three occasions, but each time “that man would fool up her head.”

Deomatie said Rachel’s children loved her immensely and stood up for her when she was being kicked, dragged and cuffed.

“They would come home and tell us what was going on. But my daughter always said thing will get better, he would change,” Deomatie recalled.

She said last Saturday she invited Rachel and the family over to her home for a cook.

“They all came and we had a good time. I told them my heart not good and all I wanted was for them to live good. She told me that they sorting things out. I told them I don’t want bacchanal and trouble. He promised me that he will make her happy,” Deomatie said. However, she said the man would drink often and during bouts of anger would blame Rachel for any man that came around, even her own son and her own brother.

“It was a bad situation. I didn’t’t think she would commit suicide. I wish I could have helped her,” Deomatie said.

She recalled that last September, the man gave Rachel a beating and told her to pack up her belongings and leave. Deomatie said her daughter packed up, but a few weeks later returned to the man, only to die a few months later.

 

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