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Why I choose to be a submissive wife

Wednesday, August 8, 2018

Over the last two weeks my Facebook page has been lit with views on marriage and one thing that jumped out at me is the tainted picture society has placed on submissive wives.

Somewhere along the way, we based our biblical knowledge on the actions of humans, albeit we give ourselves the title “Christians.”

What do I mean by this?

We saw men keep women in homes, washing, cooking, cleaning and raising children and assumed that because they went to church this was what the Bible meant by “women submit to your husbands.”

I am not sure why, throughout history, we seem stuck on this bit of the passage. I guess it was convenient for men to misuse the passage. Again, I am not sure what caused it, but we ended up there. We ended up with this passage translating to barefoot, pregnant and mute.

So why do I buy into the notion of being a submissive wife?

1. Because I read the entire book of Ephesians, instead of just the tiny INCOMPLETE chapter 5. Which means I expect my husband to also love me the way Christ loved the church.

2. Because I married a man submissive to the Lord, which means his obedience dictates that he must serve me the way Christ served the church. He must provide everything I need and create the environment necessary for my giftings to flourish and for me to walk in my purpose.

3. Because biblical leadership means he has FULL responsibility for the home, so I finally get to rest. I finally get to be in the supportive role. I finally get to feel what being spoilt feels like. After living on my own from age 18 and being a single mom for eight years, I am totally over the headship role.

4. And finally, because I have also read Proverbs 31, which details what a submissive wife looks like and she is an ambitious, intelligent, sexy, entrepreneurial mentor to other women.

A biblical husband loves and serves his wife and trusts her opinion. He isn’t filled with false pride and he doesn’t mix leadership with dominance. He respects his wife and looks to her for support. He trusts her judgement and includes her in all decisions but they both know that HE is the CEO of the home. Just like a great CEO, he knows when and what to delegate and he empowers his managers. A great leader is confident and secure and seeks to empower and uplift others around him.

Having the right context of the scripture means I need not look to imperfect humans or inaccurate historical examples to choose obedience to The Word. I can walk boldly in submission, even when the world scoffs at it. I can even challenge the world to try it because as it stands the new world family order hasn’t brought much success. Just ask the stats....


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